It’s a biological function, a$$holes, we start young (I started at 11, many start as young as 8) and we bleed, every month, for up to a week, for decades. It’s uncomfortable and painful and not the best sensation as the blood falls out or the tampon shifts or leaks. It’s trouble enough without having to hide it, pretend you don’t have it, listening to men deride you for having it, worrying about having enough supplies, worrying about having an accident, worrying about being able to find a bathroom when you are not at work or at home.
If you can put a condom machine in the ladies’ bathrooms, surely it’s not too much to ask to have feminine sanitary supplies available as well. Don’t embarrass young students for asking to go to the restroom during class—and certainly don’t say no! Don’t mock our pain and discomfort.
ETAA: I am getting lots of remarks to the effect of “of course menstruation is normalized, why are we even discussing it?” along with a lot of tales of how it’s not normalized. I’m also getting a lot of misogynist remarks (which are being deleted); one said that menstruation wouldn’t need to be normalized if women “would just get out of men’s spaces”. Another told me I was disgusting and ought to have been “ashamed of myself” for placing a folded/rolled, wrapped, used tampon or pad in a plastic-lined, lidded, wastebasket in a kitchen “where food is prepared” as if food is prepared in or on the wastebasket, or if there is no other waste in a kitchen, or as if I had a choice not to menstruate or need to dispose of the evidence of said normal biological function. It seems to be lost on these “men” that they are proving my point.
Which branch of engineering is better: ECE or Civil?
My mother’s response was to take the wastebasket out of the bathroom, which meant that now I had to fold and wrap my used pads and walk them visibly through the house to the kitchen wastebasket. Then, invariably, my brother would holler and heckle me, “Oh, Lisa’s on the rag again,” or “Here comes Lisa with her granny rags,” and then he would get mad that they were in the kitchen wastebasket for him to see when he lifted the lid to put something else in. I had no choice!
ETA: I remember a woman here telling a story that she was having a bad period, so she brought a hot water bottle in to her office. She sat working, with the hot water bottle tucked into her side. A man came in to ask her a question. She answered it, and he left. A few minutes later, her supervisor (male) came in and asked her, wouldn’t she like to go home? No, she responded, why did he ask? Well, it appeared that her coworker who came in earlier saw her hot water bottle and was disgusted. She said she had cramps, which meant her period, and he told the supervisor that it was unprofessional and gross and he wanted her out of the office. She turned him down.
My brother, in high school, got angry because my used pads were folded and wrapped up in the bathroom wastebasket. He was furious that one of his friends may see evidence that a teenaged girl actually lived in the house.
Who was the guy that had sex with the AIDS monkey?
My mother had had a hysterectomy after several difficult pregnancies, so she had no such worries about hiding her menstruation, and had apparently forgotten what it was like to grow up as the only girl child.
It means we’re tired of being harassed over our biological functions.
As I said: EVERY month, for up to a WEEK, for the vast majority of our lives. Get as used to it as we have to.
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
I can remember guys in high school and college making crude remarks about “rip cords” (tampon strings) and diapers and “plungers” and other disgusting comments.
Several minutes later, her supervisor called her in to his office and this time, told her to go home. Clearly she was incapable of working and she was making others “uncomfortable.” She again refused, and said women would miss a lot of work if they called out every time they had cramps. I don’t remember how it ended, but it went on for awhile. I’ve seen people with heating pads and hot water bottles for muscle pulls and bad backs and whatever, I’m sure that’s fine.
She wasn’t talking about teenage boys. She was talking about a pair of grown men who had mothers, sisters, and wives, angry that a woman was showing signs of menstruating. In her private office, in her own chair, a barely visible hot water bottle. This is why we need to normalize menstruation.
Why cant I stop thinking about counsellor between sessions?
